Holiday Grief Support
Recognizing and Managing Loss During the Festive Season
The holiday season, with its focus on joy, family, and celebration, can be particularly tough for those carrying the weight of grief. Whether you're facing the first holiday without a loved one or revisiting long-held losses, this time of year can amplify feelings of sadness and isolation. You don't have to navigate these emotions alone. Below, I’ve shared some tips for coping with grief during the holidays, as well as information about local gatherings where you can find a sense of community.
Tips for Navigating Grief During the Holidays
Allow Yourself to Feel
Grief doesn't take a holiday break. It’s important to honor whatever emotions arise, whether that’s sadness, anger, numbness, or even happiness. There’s no need to force joy or “put on a brave face” if you're not feeling up to it. Your grief is valid, and acknowledging it is a vital step in healing.Set Intentions for the Holidays
Before the season gets into full swing, take some time to reflect on what feels most supportive for you. Are there traditions you want to skip this year? Do you want to spend time alone, or do you need the company of others? Set gentle, flexible boundaries and communicate your needs to those around you.Create a Memorial Tradition
Consider creating new traditions that honor the memory of your loved one. This could be as simple as lighting a candle in their honor, setting a place for them at the table, or donating to a cause that was important to them. These small rituals can provide a sense of connection and meaning during the holidays.Reach Out to Others
Grief can feel isolating, but it’s important to connect with others who understand your experience. Talking with people who "get it" can help ease the burden. Whether it’s a close friend, a family member, or a grief group, don't be afraid to reach out for support.Practice Self-Care
Take time to nurture yourself, both physically and emotionally. This could mean getting extra rest, enjoying quiet time, or engaging in activities that bring you comfort, like journaling, meditation, or gentle movement. Self-care looks different for everyone, so find what works best for you.Prepare for Moments of Grief
Anticipating that certain moments might be difficult can help you feel more in control. You might want to create a “plan B” if you’re unsure about attending an event, or simply take breaks when needed. Grief can ebb and flow, and it’s okay to take things one step at a time.
Planning for Grief Around the Holidays
If you know that the holidays will be a time of grief for you, consider these additional ways to plan ahead:
Set boundaries with family and friends. Let your loved ones know what you’re capable of handling this season. Maybe you need more solitude, or perhaps attending holiday events feels supportive. Communicate your needs clearly, and don't feel guilty for doing what's right for you.
Plan moments of remembrance. Dedicate time to honor the person you’ve lost. You might visit a meaningful place, write a letter to them, or prepare their favorite meal. Having a specific time set aside can give you space to remember them without overwhelming you during other holiday activities.
Keep a grief kit nearby. If certain holiday moments feel overwhelming, have a “grief kit” with comforting items close at hand. This could include things like a favorite book, cozy blanket, journal, or any object that brings you comfort and grounding.
Lean on your community. Whether through the Ypsilanti Death Cafe or a circle of friends, being around people who understand can make a world of difference. Even if you’re not ready to talk, simply being in the presence of others who have also experienced loss can bring a sense of shared support.
Ypsilanti Death Cafe
Date: December 21st, 11:30am - 1:30pm
Location: Bloodroot Herb Shop, 208 W Michigan Ave, Ypsilanti, MI
For those looking to connect with others around conversations of death and grief, the Ypsilanti Death Cafe offers a welcoming space. This informal gathering encourages open discussions about life, death, and everything in between. Whether you're processing a recent loss or reflecting on mortality, this is a safe, nonjudgmental environment where you can explore your thoughts and feelings over tea and light refreshments.
Attending a Death Cafe can be a powerful way to feel less alone in your grief, particularly during the holidays. No registration is required -just show up and be part of the conversation.
Additional Support
As an End of Life Doula, I understand that the holiday season can bring up difficult emotions for many. If you need extra support during this time, please don't hesitate to reach out. Whether it’s through one-on-one grief support, advanced planning, or simply having someone to talk to, I’m here to help guide you through.
You don't have to walk through grief alone. Reach out for the support you deserve.
Warmly,
Hanna Hasselschwert
Contact for Support
Email: Hanna@AcaciaEndOfLife.com
Phone: 734-544-5177